matilda36

I just had that most precious thing that is a Very Good Nap, was in a good mood since I cleaned the house and was getting ready to have a cinnamon latte and to study a bit, when my phone rang and suddenly I had accepted to take on not one but one and an half extra shifts. I know I am going to pay for it, that I am going to get very, very tired and scared and emotional.... No good for my health. I don't seem to be able to say no. I don't even think it's the extra money (handy to set aside for things like a new laptop, food and internet bills), I think it's that I am afraid of saying no, afraid that they'll be upset at me if I say no. I'll need to talk about it with my therapist tomorrow, after I apologise for being tired and emotional last time..

I was reading

skoosiepants "Start where you begin" today, and it made me realise something. That slash can be very misogynistic. In the story (that it's an ok story, quite pleasurable to read), there are three mothers: one (Jeannie) is dead, one (Elizabeth) is an absent mother who promise to be there and then something important does come up, and one (Vala) is simply a bad influence. The men are the ones assuming the role of good parents, in a pretty unrealistic way.

And it's not only that story. Very often women in slash end up ridiculed (see the characterisation of Cameron and Cuddy in most House/Wilson stories) relegated to a secondary role (see the number of fics in which Gwen is Merlin's devoted best friend) or portrayed as evil ( see Lana in a lot of Clex fic or Buffy in most slash fics in the BtVS fandom).

Considering that most slash is written by women I find it an interesting phenomenon. Do we hate ourselves so much that we need to follow mainstream attitudes to women also in out little heaven of porn? Why do we prefer to feminise our male characters instead?